{"id":1584,"date":"2022-01-07T10:11:14","date_gmt":"2022-01-07T10:11:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/childadoption.in\/?p=1584"},"modified":"2022-01-07T10:11:14","modified_gmt":"2022-01-07T10:11:14","slug":"from-being-childless-to-parents-of-two-read-how-adoption-changed-the-life-of-a-couple","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/qualhon.net\/210601\/child-adoption\/from-being-childless-to-parents-of-two-read-how-adoption-changed-the-life-of-a-couple\/","title":{"rendered":"From being childless to parents of two; Read how adoption changed the life of a couple?"},"content":{"rendered":"

They say children bring happiness into your lives and we couldn\u2019t agree more. The feeling is synonyms to Indian expat Rima B who has disclosed her feelings at the onset of their daughter\u2019s footsteps into their lives.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI walked into the room and a tiny four-month-old baby was put into my arms. I can\u2019t tell you why, but I cried. My mother saw me and cried too,\u201d says Indian expat Rima B, as quoted by the <\/span>Gulf News<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Thirteen years passed, since then, Rima and her husband have adopted another child from India as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It all began with the couple failing to conceive for seven long years. When all hopes were about to go they decided to go for adoption. \u201cIt wasn\u2019t smooth because being a non-resident Indian, adopting a child is not easy \u2013 it\u2019s a long wait and the process is complicated; being in India and adopting a child,\u201d says Rima, who\u2019s a teacher by profession.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cSo for our first child, we went to a centre in Kolkata 13 years ago and we came to know we have to approach a lady called Omana Menon, who was the official Authorised Foreign Adoption Agency representative in the UAE,\u201d she remembers.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cSo we contacted her and did a home study, and after that, we had to go through a long process that included a medical check-up; we had to prove that we are medically fit; we had to prove our age \u2013 because the combined age of the couple has to be below 90. If it is about 90, the adoption will not take place. Then, from school, I had to give a salary certificate and my husband\u2019s job. Then we also had to get a No Objection Certificate from the police… People were really supportive here\u2026we went to the police station in Deira and told them why we needed the document, we didn\u2019t have to wait for even one hour for it.\u201d The waiting period began soon after all the formalities were done.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cFor the first child, I had to wait for a year [for the paperwork], for the second one, it was more than that,\u201d Rima recollects. It was during the summer holidays when she met her first daughter in India.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWe were having lunch and we got a call from a centre and they said, \u2018There is one child, but she is not of your complexion\u2019. But at that point complexion was the last thing on our minds. Immediately my husband, mum, cousin and I went to the centre and she was put into my arms. She was smiling so brightly,\u201d she continued with teary eyes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Rima added, \u201cWe took our baby home. Because the paperwork wouldn\u2019t be processed for four months, plus we needed to get the judge\u2019s approval, I decided to stay back there along with the baby.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Rima quit her job and stayed with her daughter till they got the judge\u2019s approval.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

But the wait was worthwhile. She remembers the day when the judge called them for an interview. \u201cThe judge called us and took an interview \u2013 he asked us why we wanted a child. After that, the judge gave the order for the birth certificate, the passport to be processed. And in December we came back to Dubai.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

After a few years, they decided to adopt again. She recalls the adoption process had changed a little. This time they had to apply online to the CARA (Central Adoption Resource Authority).<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cThey sent us two pictures and told us you have to choose from these pictures within 48 hours or you go back into the long waiting list. We chose her and the process started \u2013 then they called us to India and we had to do the medical tests, etc. \u2013 and again we had to approach Menon. The process started again \u2013 this time it was almost one-and-a-half years before we got our baby home,\u201d she shared.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Rima is now mom to two girls and so far she regrets only one thing, \u201cWhy did we not adopt sooner?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Her kids are aware of them being adopted. \u201cThey know they have been adopted and loved by their family. The older one used to question me a lot. At the Indian centre they had told us that before the child turns five, you should tell them. And they gave us some tips \u2013 like using parables. I followed those lessons. And it became clear to the older one when we got her sister as well,\u201d added she.<\/span><\/p>\n

Rima believes adopting kids isn\u2019t something out of the ordinary. \u201cThose who can have biological children and adopt \u2013 they do something great \u2013 for me, adopting was a necessity,\u201d she says.<\/span><\/p>\n

Am I eligible to adopt?<\/b><\/p>\n

Eligibility criteria for prospective adoptive parents as per the CARA website<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

    \n
  1. The prospective adoptive parents shall be physically, mentally and emotionally stable, financially capable and shall not have any life-threatening medical condition.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Any prospective adoptive parents, irrespective of marital status and whether or not has biological son or daughter, can adopt a child subject to the following, namely:<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    The consent of both the spouses for the adoption shall be required, in case of a married couple; A single female can adopt a child of any gender; A single male shall not be eligible to adopt a girl child;<\/span><\/p>\n

      \n
    1. No child shall be given in adoption to a couple unless they have at least two years of a stable marital relationship.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      The age of prospective adoptive parents, as on the date of registration, shall be counted for deciding the eligibility and the eligibility of prospective adoptive parents to apply for children of different age groups shall be as under:-<\/span><\/p>\n

       <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n
      \n

      Age of the child<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

      		Maximum composite age of prospective parents (couple)<\/strong><\/td>\n\n

      Maximum age of prospective parent (single)<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n

      \n

      \u2264 4 years<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

      		90 years<\/span><\/td>\n45 years<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
      \n

      4 <\/span>\u2264 8 years<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

      		100 years<\/span><\/td>\n\n

      50 years<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n

      \n

      8 <\/span>\u2264 18 years<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n

      		110 years<\/span><\/td>\n\n

      55 years<\/span><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n

      What more?\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

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      1. In the case of a couple, the composite age of the prospective adoptive parents<\/a> shall be counted.<\/span><\/li>\n
      2. The minimum age difference between the child and either of the prospective adoptive parents shall not be less than 25 years.<\/span><\/li>\n
      3. The age criteria for prospective adoptive parents shall not be applicable in the case of relative adoptions and adoption by step-parent.<\/span><\/li>\n
      4. Couples with three or more children shall not be considered for adoption except in case of children of determination, as defined in sub-regulation (21) of regulation 2, hard to place children as mentioned in regulation 50 and in case of relative adoption and adoption by step-parent.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        With inputs from Gulf News\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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